We the Misers…!
The basic trait of any human being especially in all the developing countries would be prudent and miserly when it comes to everything. We have been taught , how to save money, food, water, energy which is getting reflected in the words we use, complimenting others, expressions and naturally love. I wonder, aren’t we obsessed with money and in the mind calculation of saving it other than anything happening around us?
This note, is due to some incidents I happened to notice while shopping, Some instances truly affected me, some moments others shared and so on.
I could find in many super markets, notice not any luxurious stores or jewelry showrooms, one time it was a man, how rude and harsh he was looking like, screaming on his phone, “ where the hell are you?”. The middle aged lady, wife, with such embarrassment appeared next to me, shyly smiling at me as she was trying to find something on a racket. He was so annoyed as she is buying and finding more grocery items. This is a very common scene for me in many places, the wife who’s like whiningly looking at the man for buying things. How mean we are right? I am sure, the every single man out there who’s benevolent enough to provide for a ‘HOUSE WIFE’? is grumpy and regretting, as he’s losing his money always. We are misers, and we love money. I all time urge, my all time humble request to every single parent, daughter is equip your child to stand on her/ his own. Marriage is just a ritual, yes it’s a partnership. Don’t expect any man to look after you like your Dad.
I have learnt or developed my communication skills to a large extent, to listen and to listen carefully, observe every single gestures and body language and understand others. Another plus point is that I would complement anyone If I feel good and appreciable with very kind and expressive words. I don’t like flattery and that’s like fraudulent for me. In my own life, I have earnestly wished, prayed and longed to get a good word, get an consoling touch or a pacifying motivation. Our people who soever, even my mother, may hesitate to do this, as we are very careful in providing anything. We just count even our time, and moment spent. I wish, if people can just share some good words, which can be life for someone who’s desperate, a smile to every single human being you see, or a pacifying message if there’s somebody out there who values you much? We wont, we are very careful in grooming others, restricting them, controlling them. We can be ‘Silent’ and punish anyone, but for a good word we think 100 times, and then also we feel not to pamper anyone.
I wish if we can change
If we can feel abundant at least in the free of cost ways?
Life is simple, very short, and momentous?
All the untold words, expressions, caring and love will get decayed along with you without sharing with others…in no time.
I over think … I agree but I know how human minds work.
Dr.Shemily.P.John
