Bahrain : I would rather state that, we literally are in the dilemmatic stage of accepting the very transformational phase of world at our finer tip, and yes, how to deal with it when it comes to our new generation. Same situations, if we can remember, during our childhood there were quiet an amount hues and cries, at the advent of T.V, later may be the phone and yes, every advance in the technology.
We behave exactly the same here like our parents used to be, or similar as our grand parents. In real, the new generation has the bliss of being open to the world and ocean of resources at their touch. They are into the pool of markets, people and culture. In fact, they have extensive enlargement in their brain in storing and programming information, especially higher levels of knowledge acquisition like critical thinking or analyzing as they are getting exposed to or bombarded with tons of information on the same topic mostly.
When it comes to relationships and affairs, the new generation are again utilizing their enigma of analyzing and assessing. For them ‘falling into love, getting blindly attracted’ etc don’t matter at all. Like any other product, they use their analytical skills in finding a partner, keenly into financial stability and match making. Dating, living together, sex, if these are our worries, they are very common to their generation, and never crimes. They don’t get stigmatized to any more cultural norms as for them, the language they use and the culture is just global. Here again, the former generation can’t help too. We can certainly yell, scream and use all our manipulative tactics but it won’t work much as for the new global generation these are not like ‘Sin’.
Mostly, kids have this constant thought, in their mind, even if not asking loudly, “Are you not using your phone? Or are you not smoking a cigarette’? If you tend to be the role model, again they have this feeling, “See my dad/mom, they just wasted their lives’. An environment which is filled with advises, scolding and attempts for betterment would be a space anyone would love to exile from. This could be one of the reasons, many of the new generation students would like to go away and migrate to another country. We can’t empathize or realize the new world.
When we talk about people around us, when we rumor or scandal, especially in front of our kids, remember we are getting demeaned. They just don’t care of anyone else’s business and yes if we talk more on others, we are belittling ourselves. ‘Mind your own business is the need of the hour’ change we deserve to adapt, especially from a culture like Indian.
I remember one mother, exclaiming like ‘my child is so sensitive, she is too attached, she shouldn’t be this’. I just asked her, “Are we training our kids to be win any battle or conquer a world’? No right, our ultimate aim should be to, bringing up, ‘Excellent human beings’, to a world which is getting again transformed to be ‘mechanical or robotic’. Our goal must be how can I influence my child in the best positive way, in order to make him/her a good person. We have quite a lot to talk about parenting, and the challenges of the present times.
Dr.Shemily.P.John
